Learning to Deal With the Impostor Syndrome

On paper, your investments in stocks, real estate or even cash may look like your greatest assets.

While all those things are super important, you have something else that’s even more valuable.

It’s the investment called you.

 

Finding ways to increase your value while doing the things you love may be the most important thing you do.

Maybe you pursue more training to qualify for a raise.

Maybe you find a way to sell the photography you did as a hobby.

Maybe you find a way to turn your freelance writing into full-time work. Questions

They all involve doing something new for you, but when you head down this path, you are probably going to run into this thing, this fear that you’re bumping up against the limits of your ability.

Then, the voice inside your head may start saying things like:

  • “Who gave you permission to do that?”
  • “Do you have a license to be an artist?”
  • “Who said you could draw on cardstock with a Sharpie in Park City, Utah, and send those sketches to The New York Times?”

I think you get the idea.

It’s at the moment when you’re most vulnerable that all your doubts come crashing in around you.

When I first heard that voice in my own head, I didn’t know what to make of it.

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Note: The fear was paralysing.

Every time I sent a sketch or something else into the world, I worried the world would say, “You’re a fraud.”

During a session with a business coach, I shared my fear.

I was shocked when she told me this thing had a name. 

As you’ve tried new things or done anything outside of your comfort zone, you’ve probably felt that fear, too.

The first step to dealing with this fear is knowing what to call it.

Two American psychologists, Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, gave it a name in 1978: the impostor syndrome.

They described it as a feeling of “phoniness in people who believe that they are not intelligent, capable or creative despite evidence of high achievement.”

While these people “are highly motivated to achieve,” they also “live in fear of being ‘found out’ or exposed as frauds.” Sound familiar?

Once we know what to call this fear, the second step that I’ve found really valuable is knowing we’re not alone.

Once I learned this thing had a name, I was curious to learn who else suffered from it.

One of my favourite discoveries involved the amazing American author and poet Maya Angelou.

She shared that, “I have written 11 books, but each time I think, ‘Uh oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.’”

Think about that for a minute.

Despite winning three Grammys and being nominated for a Pulitzer Prize and a Tony Award, this huge talent still questioned her success.

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